These past few weeks have been full. We have:
-Officially accepted our match with C & J
-Applied for their immigration
-Had lots of visitors and life-giving time with them
-Been working hard with our team for our Both Hands project coming up
-Had two fundraisers done on our behalf by our families (you guys are the best!)
-Applied for more grants
-Done. So. Much. Paperwork.
This next week includes:
-C & J learning about us as they begin their preparation meetings!
-Our Both Hands project (https://bothhands.org/project/martin-7460)
-Hopefully a little less paperwork
We should be headed to Costa Rica in July! We will not receive the official dates for several weeks yet, but that is all part of the process. A process filled with paperwork.
We are going to share more about the Both Hands project in the coming days but we wanted to give you a heads up about what has been going on. (Answer: Paperwork.)
Guys...it happened! We are officially matched! WOOOHOOOO!!!
We will have more details to follow, but today we are just really excited! We will be traveling in the next 2-3 months to pick up our kids!
God has provided and has guided us through this all. We are so thankful!
Friends…celebrate with us!
We have been approved by Central Authority in Costa Rica!
What does that mean? Practically, it means Costa Rica has said “Yes, you may adopt from our country.” It also means that we are one more (very significant) step closer to bringing home our kiddos.
Now, the only thing we are waiting on is the official match with our kids. As we’ve shared, they have our Letter of Intent to adopt C & J specifically, which is best understood as a “soft match.” This official matching process should occur in the next few weeks.
We invite you to join with us in prayer as we await this match, specifically on Thursdays, as cases are only reviewed on that day of the week. This is the last big step before traveling to bring them home!
Below is the list of the bigger steps in the process. As many of you know, there is so much represented by this list. We are so excited to be nearing the end of this part of the process and closer to the hands-on, relational part - which will have its own process to work through, of course.
Thank you again to everyone who has supported us, prayed with us, donated, and cheered us on. Ya’ll are the best! And we love you!
-Submit letter of intent to CR [DONE]
-Home study [DONE]
-Immigration applied for [DONE]
-Immigration approved [DONE]
-Dossier submitted [DONE]
-Dossier approved [DONE]
Over the last couple of years, we have taken the time as a family to study and participate in the annual cycle of the Feasts of Israel. We also studied this alongside our small group, which was very fun. While we have only just begun to really learn about the feasts and their fullest, deepest meaning, (we really have only scratched the surface in our understanding) we have observed that one key thread connects all of the feasts: they are designed to help us remember all that God has done.
Looking back on this season of participation and reflection, I am so grateful that we were able to focus on these amazing Feasts. What better way to enter into this adoption season than by spending a year looking back and celebrating what God has done? We have found that remembering what He has done makes trusting what He will do all the easier.
Spring is festival season in the Jewish calendar, including the most well-known feast of Passover which happened this week. And since Spring also marks the start of all things new - a new growing season, new birth, and the like - it is such a great time to reflect on all that God has done. You can think about all He has done in a large, grand scale: how He made the whole world, freed the people of Israel from slavery, sent His son (or, in another way of thinking, sent Himself) – and these would all be good reasons to remember all that He has done. But, you can also think about all the wonderful things that He has done around you. Romans 11:36 reminds us that “For from him and through him and for him are all things. To him be the glory forever! Amen.” Every breath of your lungs is there because He commands it to be so. Every day you have is a gift He has given, and every moment of your future eternity is in His hands. There is so much for which to be thankful!
Adoption means that as we look ahead there is a lot of uncertainty. However, remembering all that God has done gives us hope and comfort. When we feel nervous or scared or anxious about what comes next, it helps to remember God’s goodness, faithfulness, and provision for His people throughout history, and for us personally as well.
Remembering what He has done makes trusting what He will do all the easier.
Without sacrifice, there can be no love.
Every loving action a person does requires some kind of sacrifice – a sacrifice of time, of money, of thoughtfulness, of energy, of reputation, or of convenience. In fact, sacrifice is, itself, the very foundation of love. Without sacrifice, there can be no love.
Easter, of course, proves this to us in the fullest way possible through the person and work of Jesus. He loved us while we were still sinners – in knowledge of all of our sin. However, His death was a willing Sacrifice, a self-Sacrifice, born completely out of love. He chose to die not because we earned it or deserved it, but simply because He loves us. Without His sacrifice, there would be no love at all, nothing good, and nothing worthwhile to pursue.
Sacrificial generosity is precisely why we have been feeling so very loved lately. All of you, and many others, have shown us real, selfless, self-sacrificing love in the last several months. Some have given up their time to participate in fundraisers. Some have taken the time to pray for us. Many have sacrificed their money for us (and often to the point of their own inconvenience). Dozens and dozens of individuals and families have looked at our need and responded – in love and in sacrifice. And because of all that, we have just passed $30,000 which is just about 66% of our goal. We are so incredibly thankful!
Recently, our sweet friend Jill Pearson did a fundraiser for us through her business. Guys, we didn’t even ask her to! Jill runs an art studio (Riverwood Studio - www.riverwoodstudioarts.com), and on any given week, you can find classes of kids or adults enjoying art together. And for one particular night, she decided to put all of that to work sacrificially for our benefit. Jill gave her time, skills, resources, and business assets to help bring our kids home.
And I think what is so amazing about all of this generosity - including every one of you who has participated in supporting us in your own way – is that yes, on some level it is our friends and family who are being so generous to us. But in reality, the generosity isn’t really about us. The generosity is primarily for the benefit of two children half a world away who these kind, generous souls have never met. Most of you don’t even know their names. And yet, you have sacrificed, and because you sacrifice, you are showing us, and them, love.
Without sacrifice, there can be no love.
We are feeling the love.
Thank you for the love.
-Brian and Ann
Wow - so much has happened in the past month, and we want to bring our community up to speed on everything that we are excited about. First a bullet-point summary, and then a little explanation.
-Dossier has been translated and submitted to the Costa Rican authorities
-We were awarded a matching grant of $3500
-We were approved to participate in an amazing fundraiser called The Both Hands Project
Things are moving along as planned with paperwork and processes. This part of the process involves some weeks of waiting (as far as official paperwork goes - but there is a lot more to do in other areas), and we look forward to hearing back from Costa Rica. If all goes as we hope and pray, we should get the official "green light" next, which will put us in place to be officially matched. After being matched, it’s time to start planning for travel.
We have started a partnership with three organizations who all coordinate and work together to help people bring their adoptive kids home.
Lifesong For Orphans – an online portal for crowd-funding donations. All donations will go through this portal from now on.
The Chosen and Dearly Loved Foundation – an organization that helps fund adoptions through matching grants.
The Both Hands Project – helps organize fundraisers for adoptions in which families build a team, send out letters, and ask for sponsorship for fixing up the house of a local widow.
Lifesong for Orphans
We will now be funneling all fundraising in this next season through this venue. One of the GREAT things about this is that all donations given through this site are tax deductible, which is a benefit for individuals and/or businesses who choose to participate. Additionally, there is only a small credit card fee no usage fee for the site here.
If someone cares to donate by check, simply follow these directions:
-Make checks payable to Lifesong for Orphans
-Memo line: “Martin 7460” (This must be on the check or the money will not be directed to our account)
-Mail to: Lifesong for Orphans PO Box 40 Gridley, IL 61744
The Chosen and Dearly Loved Foundation
This wonderful organization awarded us a matching grant of $3500! That means the next $3500 we raise will be instantly doubled. We are so incredibly grateful for this partnership to help us meet our financial goals.
**In order for the dollars to be matched, however, the money needs to be donated directly from the person donating through the link for Lifesong (above) or on the Both Hands page (see link below) that brings you to Lifesong, or by check directly to Lifesong (address above). This grant and the Both Hands Project work together, so one donation helps both things. Woohoo!
Both Hands Project
While we look forward to telling you even more very soon, we are so excited to be working toward this goal. Here's a brief description of how it works:
Both Hands help families fundraise for their adoptions. A family gathers a team of volunteers and Both Hands coaches them to coordinate a service project fixing up a widow's home. Similar to a 5k race, the family and their team raise sponsorship for their day of service and the funds raised help an orphan be adopted into a forever family!
You can see our specific webpage through their site here: https://bothhands.org/project/martin-7460. Please note that clicking on the “donate now” section will redirect you to “Lifesong For Orphans.”
We are so excited to be able to serve a widow in the process of adopting these children!
“Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress.” James 1:27 (NIV)
Okay, we know that was a lot but we wanted the information to be available. Please let us know if you have any questions. We look forward to posting more about the Both Hands Project soon!
Short answer part 1: Facebook.
Now if someone would have come up to us sometime in the past years and let us know that we would be adopting two children from Costa Rica, one who is 16 years old and happens to be deaf along with her 5-year-old brother AND that we found out about them on Facebook we would have never believed them. Mostly the Facebook part.
But again, God reminds us of who He is and who we are in Him with the roots and the branches. This is a story we never could have written. As we were growing deeper into Him, He was doing His own work and growing this tree that we could have never designed ourselves.
Short answer part 2: the Wienke Family.
Depending on what part of our life you are from, you may already know about this amazing family. Our GBCC fam from back in the day certainly will! Even now, many of you know them or have heard about them through our story (hope that is okay Tollef and Sheila!).
We first met the Wienkes when we were in youth group (as in, like, attending as high schoolers…) and they were two of our leaders when they were a hip, young, married couple and before they had any kids. And they were lovely then, but to be honest, we had fallen completely out of touch. But, like He does, God was working His Roots and Branches story in them as well.
Fast forward 15ish years and this young couple we once knew now captain a crew of TEN children, SEVEN of whom entered their family through THREE different adoptions. Their story is a story of bravery, of trusting God, and of #extravagantlove. We have followed their story with this most recent adoption and are blessed by their willingness to share so much of it.
It’s basically Facebook stalking, but in the best way possible.
So then one day, the Wienkes shared a post from their (and what is now our awesome) adoption agency that was advocating to find a family for C and J. We (Ann and Brian) both read it, as we always look at these types of posts. Every story of every kid matters, and we often feel that when we read other adoption stories. But this one was different. The story just stuck in our head and in our hearts, and both of us felt we needed to do…something. We talked about it and prayed about it and felt like we should at least make the call. So we did! We were honestly expecting the agency to tell us that they had found another, more-qualified family. Or a family that was already in their system. Or…
But they didn’t. They kept wanting to talk to us. And we wanted to talk to them.
With each call, each email, and each step of any sort, our prayer was just that God would lead us with that very part. We didn’t instantly know “this was it.” That’s just not how He spoke to us in this time. But gradual steps led careful hearts to the point of, “yes.” Eventually, we felt very strongly that He had led us to the point where we are now.
And so here we are now, in the middle of our “yes,” and trying to navigate what comes next, and trying to trust God every step of the way. Success is being wherever Jesus is. So we are choosing to trust.
Facebook. The Wienkes. God’s guidance. The help of wonderful people like you. One heck of a recipe to get us to Costa Rica.
[And side note to all my friends who have been Small Group Leaders over the years...See? You'll never know how you might affect someone's life! See? I TOLD YOU.]
You people are incredible! As we prepare to send out our dossier in the next few days, we are beyond humbled that God has provided, through so many of you, the payments needed to be able to submit it. That’s right friends, we just passed our financial goal for this stage of the process, right in time!
There is still so much to go and so much work to do, but today we want to pause and rest in His provision and leading of each one of us; it is Kingdom work happening right before our eyes and we are honored to be a part of it and watch you take your part in it as well. It truly is beautiful.
This puts us at $20,294 which is 45% of our goal! Celebrate with us!
Around Christmastime, trips to the mailbox are more fun. We LOVE getting Christmas cards from family and friends. But yesterday, we got a bonus load of joy. That's because, many weeks before we were expecting it, we got our approval letter from U.S. Immigration. This is a major piece of moving ahead with our adoption, and we are so very thankful!
Maybe the best way to put this into perspective is to consider that the process of getting approved for our international adoption basically expands as we continue on. First is the agency (1), then the state of Minnesota (2), then the U.S. (3), then Costa Rica (4). After receiving this letter, we have now been approved for the first three! Woohoo! Once we've been approved in all of these areas, we will be ready to be officially matched with C & J.
Our next step is to submit all necessary documents to Costa Rica (this is called a dossier). We should be able to submit the dossier fairly soon.
In short, this letter arriving means we are closer than we expected. God is good, and we appreciate greatly this sweet blessing at Christmas.
May the love and peace of Jesus Christ our Savior, whose birth we celebrate in this season, fill your hearts and minds. And may we all reflect on the incredible blessing and beauty of Emmanuel, of God choosing to be with us.
How Is ASL Going?
Most notably, WE LOVE ASL!
Okay, so really, this is a lot of work. It is so good, but it takes a lot of time, energy and focus. ASL truly is another language, not just a set of vocabulary words with signs attached. Many times throughout the day as we are talking with each other or the kids we are reminded that we are nowhere near able to communicate those things in sign. And signing will be THE way we communicate with C. So obviously it is so very important that we are able to. We are working hard, and will continue to do so.
We have always had such an incredible amount of respect for people who learn a new language, especially as adults, and that respect is only growing. It grows each and every time we thought we understood something and then yet again were humbled by our inability to communicate. Looking at each other with confused expressions, only to have our 8 or 6 year old (or sometimes the 2 year old) easily fill in the gaps of our understanding. What we would give to have their ability to learn a new language!
How Are We Learning?
We have been using a number of different ASL programs at home, both online and DVD. We also have an incredible amount of resources that so many of you wonderful people have loaned to us in this time. Once again, thank you for all of your support! All of these things have allowed us to be learning constantly while at home and we are so grateful for these.
Once a week our family goes to the Minnesota Academy for the Deaf in Faribault. There we attend a free ASL class for families of deaf individuals. They have so graciously allowed us to be a part of the class as we prepare to adopt C (& J). This is a highlight of our week! Our teacher is Deaf, and can I just say that she is wonderful? There we get to put into practice what we are learning at home while she is teaching us the very many aspects of the language that are much easier in person. She kindly corrects our poor execution and answers our very many questions. The kids are in the class for the majority of the time with us, but near the end we allow them to go run around in the gym before heading home. There they play with both deaf children as well as hearing children with a deaf sibling. They sign away and play together and just make it work. It is beautiful.
When we think about the first week we attended class and how little we understood, we are amazed at how far we’ve come. Of course, we have so far to go and will keep pressing on with every bit of our energy that we can. We hope and plan to learn as much as possible in this time so that we can be best equipped to teach C what we know, and obviously so that we can communicate with her. And continue learning, forever learning.
So if you are wondering what we are doing with our time, there it is. If we have any spare time in our day, and even when there really isn’t, it is quickly filled in with this aspect of the process.
Why This Learning Process Is So Important
We couldn’t write about our process of learning ASL without bringing it back to C. As much as we love all of this learning and are loving the language itself, it is all with the heavy heart of knowing that she has never been taught a sign language (until very recently). Our level of struggle to grasp onto a new language is nothing compared to how hard she has had to work to live in this world without a language for so long. So we are fighting for her as we learn - fighting for what a language will give her. Will language fix everything or resolve the trauma from the past? Definitely not. But we hope that it will allow her to know and understand more of what is going on around her. And for that we will fight.
C has been able to recently start learning LESCO (Costa Rican Sign...which is not the same as American Sign Language) and for that we are incredibly grateful. We are told she is loving it and we couldn’t be happier for her! We will have to transition her to ASL but are thrilled that she is learning to communicate and being poured into in this way.